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D2. Apology Model

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Revised August 20, 2008

Child Sexual Molestation...

D.2. Apology Model (for the Offender)

"Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; FIRST be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift." Matt 5: 23-24


Read: Fundamentals of an Apology

Read: Victim’s Account of Abuse

Five-Points of a Genuine Apology

  • Confession, regret and acknowledgement of their hurt/harm/pain: I am sorry
  • Accept Responsibility: I was wrong
  • Genuine Repentance: I will not do this again
  • Restitution: What can I do to make this right?
  • Request Forgiveness: Will you please forgive me?

On a separate paper, complete the expressions below for each of the 5 points.

1. I regret and am sorry that:

I acknowledge that I caused you hurt, harm, pain:

2. I was wrong in that I:

What I did was wrong and selfish. It was all my fault.
I take full responsibility for my sinful actions.

3. I promise I will not ever do this again:

I will make every effort to _______ by doing X
This is what I’m going to do so this will never happen again…

4. To make restitution, I offer to:

5. I hope that you will be able to forgive me some day:

Additional Notes:

To your family, I have this to say:

To your “significant others,” I have this to say:

To the church, I have this to say:

To God, I have this to say:




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